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I'm not judging you or anything, just curious on your reasons, why are you afraid of the changes? You don't need to answer if you don't feel comfortable sharing this.
I’m honestly not sure yet, that’s something that I need to consider more. I went from feeling excited to feeling panicked in the space of a day, and then just kept feeling anxious about it. Idk.
Like, if I could flip the “born with ovaries” switch I definitely would, but... idk maybe I’m NB or fluid or something and never noticed it because being a man feels like a coffin? I am very confused about this.
I think being a woman today comes with stakes that people for some reason arent ready to face - especially a trans woman. But, being enby is totally a possibility and same with gender fluidity. There is HRT that can femme you out but no boobs if you ever want it and you dont need HRT or surgeries to be a woman (if thats what you want).
If you could live in a commune with just trans women and enbies, picture yourself there, everyone accepts you whatever you choose - what does your heart say it wants?
Wait there’s fem without boobs HRT? That’s interesting… I’ve definitely liked how I feel other than this latest development. I’ve get a lot more relaxed since starting hormones.
That’s an interesting question.
If I can go back to being like 20 and start femmimg up before turning into a damn Sasquatch and putting on a bunch of muscle and some fat in this scenario then I’d probably look like a mildly gothy tomboy lesbian with short hair. I’d also be open to a femme twink with the same look otherwise.
If I can’t do that and have to work with what I’ve got then I’d have to think about it more. Maybe it’s just the idea of having to deal with all of the testosterone damage that’s got me all fucked up?
This does exist, but there are real problems with it. It is an option though.
There's an old article about it. I think there's been some work in trying to balance things to reduce the long-term risk of osteoperosis, but not sure how much success there's been. TBH, I imagine a lot of the concern is just normal doctors/scientists being hyper-conservative in their recommendations (that blog being no exception to that tendency). But SERMs could at least give you some time to think about it while continuing HRT. Personally, I would have used them if there weren't the concerns about long-term health risks (although in retrospec I'm glad I didn't use them)
Like spiro/another anti androgen only or ads intentionally low dose E (like a low dose patch) - or raloxifene. It's not as good as E though especially the mental and emotional stuff.
You can be NB and be on estrogen (I am). So maybe you should pause and make sure you got your feelings figured out, but I would definitely recommend considering the questions of "are you a woman" and "do you want hrt" seperatly. Cuz you could be an NB and want hrt or you could be a woman and not want hrt, or whatever. Lots of possibilities.
Or like maybe my anxiety is just worse than I thought? Or maybe I’m just afraid of changes? No matter what it is, I definitely need to get to the bottom of it.
This is definitely something you'll need to figure out for yourself. I will say though, some binary trans women are nervous about breast growth at first just because it's a big change, and some people will like you less for it. Hell, some cis women get breast reduction surgery, and that doesn't make them not women. So you can certainly be a woman and experience some unease about that. It's up to you to decide.
It's very okay and normal to be afraid of changes, the unknown is scary. I'm not sure how long ago you started, but it takes time for it to really take effect. And, well, if this is happening in the span of a day, maybe tomorrow you'll feel excited about it again.
Saying that is very tansfem, tbh. Try to calm down and think about it. Do you want these changes? Do you feel good thinking about having breast development, fat redistribution and overall more feminine looking body? You can be NB or fluid and do HRT too.
I started on Halloween so it’s been about a month. I was happy with things until the other day when my nipples started to get sore, and even then I was really excited for a couple hours before it flipped.
I think maybe I’m less stoked about breasts than I am about less belly and more hips/butt. I’ve already got a sizable ass from squatting but it’s still more dude shaped than I’d prefer.
Right now my plan is to take a pause and keep thinking about it and figure out what’s got me all twisted.
I'll throw this out there, I was/am nervous about breast growth. I've only really posted about it positively but its still something nerve racking for me.
E fixes that, with time. I wish E changed my overall shape before getting breasts too. My overall look if much more important then breasts to me. I'll also say that for a while after I cracked I was not sure if breasts were right for me, a lot of the same feelings you have now. But now with more time I definitely do want them. And even still I'm a bit nervous about it, even if I only usually talk positively about it
Yeah, take some time to figure it out, think it through now. There's nothing wrong with giving up on hrt too. Maybe the having boobs thing isn't for you, and that's all well and good