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I had my first less than three months ago. I got lucky in that mine sleeps through the night, I’ve heard that’s rare. If your baby is good at staying asleep, make lots of noise while they’re napping to get them used to it. It’ll help later in life (they’re less likely to be light sleepers that way). Vacuum, do dishes, listen to music, whatever. Every baby’s different though, if they keep waking up and staying awake, switch things up. Routines can be important too when they’re a bit older. Don’t worry too much about it at first, but around 4 months I’ve heard a baby will start to get into a routine, so keep that in mind. I’m not quite there yet so I can’t comment too much, that’s just something I’ve heard a ton from other parents.
My biggest thing is don’t stress too much. Things will come when they come, you’ll figure it out. There’s a good chance one or both of you will have parental instincts, trust them. If neither have them, that’s okay too. Just do your best. There’s no right or wrong answer. When they’re a bit older, I’ve heard positive reinforcement tends to be more effective and also far better for their mental health than discipline, albeit slower to start. I’m not there yet but that’s what I’m planning on doing. At the end of the day though, don’t beat yourself up if you aren’t a perfect parent. Do your best by your kid and they’ll turn out just fine. Just give them lots of love, always.
Also obviously don’t abuse them or something but that shouldn’t be necessary to say.