memes

So I'm old and greying now (in my late 30s), have no major stake in this but I'd like to reframe something you've said from a different perspective based on life experience.

I disagree that women like men who are decisive. It's going to sound like pedantry but I think that's too broad. That's not a message that helps young men find a good way.

In my experience, women like it when men are thoughtfully and respectfully decisive. Men are complex, sophisticated, have good days, bad days, strong days, days when they feel weak. Days when they're decisive and days when they are not. I don't think we can split men into two camps - decisive and indecisive - without oversimplifying. A man can be decisive one day and indecisive the next.

The messaging that reached me as a young man, which I detested, was to be decisive above all else (at the expense of thoughtfulness and consideration) because indecisiveness would repel women even more than being a bad person. That's not the message that I'd like young men to hear. I'd like the world to be a better place than when I was growing up.

This comment is not so much directed at you as it is to others who may come across it and have had a similar experience. Be decisive but if and only when you've taken her and others into account. This is how you earn the respect of your contemporaries.