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I don't think I've ever seen anyone say that, that someone likes cock because they support trump. That's just plain homophobia, and needs to be called exactly for what it is, 100% agree.
What I do see frequently, however, is people saying that some dude must be a repressed gay man because they're defending some point about sexuality that is so extremist and outrageous, that a normal person (gay or otherwise) would struggle to even come up with, let alone defend. Not rarely do we see that this was actually the case, or even worse, they turn out to be real monsters that abuse children...
This (clarification: my post) was specifically in response to a post about Mike Johnson that called him a creepy dude with incest vibes for involving his daughter in a purity ball (fair), and immediately went on to talk about how he must have a Grindr account and love cock?? Absolutely no reasonable connection, just straight up ‘guy I hate = degenerate, degenerate = gay’ ideology. I see it on fedi an unfortunate amount, and people are defensive as hell about how ‘it’s not actually homophobia!!’ to say shit like that.
I reject the premise that there aren’t numerically more fucked up repressed straight people than gay ones. Defaulting to ‘this dude is a sexual weirdo, must be gay’ is also homophobia.
I had someone essentially accuse me of purity testing and doing "leftist infighting" for calling this shit out ("guy I don't like = cocksucker"). Like uh sure there's bigger problems we have to worry about right now but that doesn't mean what you're doing is ok either. These guys claim to be such allies, but are practically allergic to a simple "hey please don't do that it's kind of bigoted even though it's attacking a bad person"